Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Tug of War

So anyway........ Do you ever feel like you're being pulled in too many different directions? That's how I feel right now concerning my Instagram account. (I bet you thought this post was going to be deep. Nope.) Aside from following a few of my friends, I follow a few fitness accounts, and plus sized fashionistas. 
The plus sized bloggers/fashionistas are all about loving and embracing your fullness, and that's definitely something I strongly believe in, considering I'm a 12-14. It's really important for women to have positive thoughts about themselves, because hey, we can't all look like Nia Long. That doesn't mean we can't be fabulous.
The fitness accounts I follow are mostly women who have gone from plus-sized to not plus sized. The reason these accounts interest me is because I'm on a journey to become healthier, and I need motivation and information about just how to do that. Everyone has a different routine and different goals, so it's good to get different perspectives.
I've never been a skinny chic, and I've never been morbidly obese. Just always somewhere in between. I don't lament the extra sexiness I carry around, because all things considered, I think I wear it fairly well. Thank God for height! My weight is spread vertically, as opposed to horizontally. I genuinely believe about 30lbs of my weight is directly in my head. Like literally, not figuratively.  I have a big head, but I digress.
I'm on a fitness journey because I don't want to die from something that can mostly be prevented through diet and exercise. Ain't nobody got time for diabetes and hypertension. I have to remember that I can't be fooled by the amount of self confidence I have, and forget what I'm trying to do. At the end of the day, it's not just about looking good in a cute outfit. We plus sized gals are proof that you can do that at any size. I do know that reality has affected me way more than I'd like to admit. I don't think you have to be sad or unhappy with who you are to want to get healthier. Getting older and watching your metabolism bottom out is very motivational. That's where I am now.
It's not that we plus sized gals just sit around eating whatever the hell we want, and we don't care about being healthy. We work out too. I don't want this post to sound like I think all  plus sized girls are unhealthy. I just know that when I eat better, weight comes off. So that's what I'm expecting to happen as this journey progresses.
I'm just going to end this with a quote.

"I don't believe the word "healthy" means small-framed... it just means taking care of what one does in terms of body, mind and spirit; getting to a place where you aren't worried (especially about the body forsaking you bc of what you eat) ... to be healthy = to make conscious decisions of what you do to maintain your life here on this planet!"~ Louise Hammonds

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Where Have You Been?

So, anyway. It's been a while, a long while, and I'm not going to apologize for that.  I can't really offer a concrete explanation as to why I've neglected this blog. All I can say is, shit happens. I've been through a lot over the past 20 months, but things are settling a little. Sorta. Believe it or not, I do miss blogging and I am going to carve out some time to do it again regularly. It's probably for the best that I didn't blog about my single gal trials and tribulations over the past few months.  I might have sounded like a lunatic.  Although I haven't written here consistently over the inception of this blog the past year or so, I have been  writing.  I've written a fun little ebook for single gals. It should be ready for purchase before the end of 2013. I'll keep you posted.  In the meantime, it's time to get back to enjoying life in Atlanta, since it's obvious I'm going to be here. I look forward to talking at you again soon.

Sunday, March 3, 2013

Who Deserves a Second Chance?

So, anyway.......
How do you know if an ex deserves a second chance? I know a lot of people who have gone onto marry a person with whom they had at least one break-up. I know it can work, I just don't know what the determining factors should be.  I've never really been one to go back to an ex.  I'm cold and heartless, I suppose.....  Once I'm done, I'm done.  But, lately I've been a little curious about a guy from my past. We didn't have a bad breakup, things just didn't work out. We're both older, and presumably wiser, but I'm still weary. I've never left a relationship thinking that I could have done more.  I try hard, because I don't want to have that, "he's the one that got away", moment. Well, I don't want that moment to come because I could have tried harder. Basically by the time a relationship has completely run its course with me, I know I've done all I can, or am willing to do to save it.  Anyway, feel free to email me with your thoughts.