Thursday, October 27, 2011

Self Help: There are too many colors to choose the blues

There are too many colors to choose the blues~Louise Hammonds

So anyway. It dawned on me the other day that I need to self help. There are things that need changing and I'm the only person who can change them. I'm sure you can relate, so I encourage you to join me. 

I'm going to post a quote, then tell you what I think it means, or how it relates to my life. You may interpret it differently. That's cool, feel free to share your interpretation in the comments, or via email.

This one is pretty simple to me. Stop CHOOSING to be involved in shit that isn't good for you.. It's simple enough, and if we work really hard, it's easy to do. A lot of us are carrying around dead weight, personally and professionally. Let's lighten the load. Get rid of the people in your life who bring you negativity. Everyone you align yourself with should be down for you. If you get an inkling that someone isn't fully in your corner, cut them off. Save me the "I need my haters as motivators." bullshit. Keep those people at a distance. It's fine for you to be aware that they are there, but don't invite them into your everyday life. It's no secret that not everyone wants to see you succeed. That's fine, but the people who do want you to fail can't be in your inner circle. Stop beating yourself up about separating yourself from these assholes. There's not lifetime potential in every relationship. We're all grown ups, and we have to make tough decisions. Although it really shouldn't be tough to get rid of an asshole, but whatever.
Bottom line, make better choices.


  1. I am sooo with you in this pledge. I am a self help junkie so I am always down to reevaluate my life. As for the quote thats a tough one to learn. I can only speak for myself when I say that my involvement in things that arent good from me stems from a fear of stepping out of my comfort zone. I am sometimes afraid to take a risk, step out on faith, and have the confidence that my life will be better if I just remove x person from my life, or finally apply for a new job, or even just take better care of myself . . .

  2. amen! sometimes we can find it hard to get rid of an asshole because negativity too, can fit like the puzzle-piece of a good aspect! no one's ignorance should motivate another's intelligence, other than to say, "You know what, I'm gonna date K.I.M. (Keep It Moving)! we attract who we are, so i don't blame the folks that get me to feeling any particular way, i blame me; i blame whatever that need in me is pulling and keeping them in my life! i gotta see that eye am choosing the blues, because I fail to see the other colors!

    great thoughts, SSG!