Trust Your Gut

Ladies, you know why men treat us like we're stupid? Because too many of us either are stupid, or we let them believe we're stupid for a few weeks too many.  Spending any amount of time convincing yourself that what you know to be true really isn't true, is a waste of time.  And don't expect the men to do you any favors. You don't need that last bit of confirmation. You already know when some bullshit is being thrown your way. Let's stop acting like we don't. We all have intuition and we spend way too much time trying to quiet that little nagging voice that's in the back of our heads, or in the pit of our stomachs. I'm not sure where yours lies, but I know it's there. These men will try to insult your intelligence in ways that will actually offend you. However, if you let them think you were stupid for an extended amount of time, you have no one to blame but yourself. Let's work on this, ladies.

We also need to learn that it's okay to be upset, and it's okay to tell the person you're upset with that you're upset. Why do we feel the need to keep that shit bottled in? We walk around pretending not to care, when we know we care. You're never going to get to go back and be not upset, so you (we) might as well address shit when it comes up.

Shortly after I started writing this, I had to run out to meet a friend and her boyfriend for dinner. We had a great time and it was very cathartic!  We actually talked a lot about "likelihood"  I realized that it's a great way to analyze situations when you're not 100% sure. Sometimes you have to take how you feel about something completely out of the equation and just think about the other person involved. If you know someone well enough, then you know the "likelihood" of them doing certain things.  I'm such a "benefit of doubt" kinda gal. (this goes back to not trusting intuition) but sometimes, shit just doesn't make sense and it's okay to acknowledge that immediately.  Every situation doesn't need to be broken down like it's a calculus problem.  Sometimes, hell most of the time shit is exactly what it looks like. Our only problem is acceptance. Ladies, let's work on this.