Thursday, November 4, 2010
Doing Me, Day 23: You're Doing Too Much
So, I have this friend who has this incessant need to be liked. She literally goes out of her way to make sure people think she's just the great friend or great random new girl that they just met. Sometimes she's just real over the top. She's a nice girl, but having known her for years I can tell when she's in her "let me make sure everyone thinks I'm the greatest most considerate person ever" mode. Knowing how easily she can flip the switch, it leads to me questioning her motives for doing anything. I really hate that because I know some of the things she does are genuine, but lately I can't stop saying to myself, "She's just being real extra right now". I really, really hate that it's come to this point. I normally don't let it bother me when she's sashaying around acting like a Stepford Wife, but it's been getting on my nerves a lot lately. I'm not sure how to handle this situation because hell, she might not even realize
she's doing it how much she does it. The thing is, I've never liked girls who act like that. You know the chick who wants to be everyone's friend? When you're a teenager it's understandable to want to be liked by everyone. Unrealistic? Yes, but it is understandable. When you're 30 years old, you really shouldn't give a damn about who likes you and who doesn't. Not unless those people are important to you in some way, and even then you should draw a line somewhere. When you start going above and beyond, bending over backwards to serve complete strangers, or people you just met through mutual friends, then you're doing way too much. I don't know if we'll ever address this. I'm not sure there's a nice way to say "Quit being a fake bitch" but maybe I'd better find one. Like I said a few posts ago, it's not good to let these things fester. Stay tuned.